Have you ever had one of those days where you've done NOTHING with your day but feel we tired at the end of the day?
Or the other way round. You've had the best day ever and you feel so energised but you don't know why?
There's a reason for that and it's because energy that doesn't flow, rots.
The other day, I woke up and for some reason had this weight weighing down on me. I felt stagnant, drained and my mind was in overdrive. This was my day off and I wanted to make the most of it, so I grabbed Josh by the hand, put on some Taylor Swift and started dancing. I closed my eyes and just let my body do it's thing
Shake up, shake down, turn around, some back and forth boogies, SONG CHANGE, switch to rock & roll, funky dancing, smooth dancing, moonwalking, hair swivels...
For half and hour we danced from one song to another and finished totally out of breath and smiling. I physically felt the weight lift off my body.
Now the reason I shared this with you isn't so we all get up and start dancing together, (though I would love that!), it's because this applies to so many areas of our life.
When energy flows it ENERGISES, when it's stagnant it rots. Just like the gunky water of a lake vs. the clear water of a rushing river. We are a part of nature. We ARE nature. So it's no surprise that nature mirrors what's true for us.
Every interaction we have with people is an energy exchange. But the difference between that interaction being draining or energising is wether we're in a state of FLOW or not.
👉When our body expresses itself, were in FLOW.
👉When we speak our truth, were in FLOW.
👉When we're helping people from our heart, we're in FLOW.
Being in flow is energising and energised people are MAGNETIC!
With my clients who feel drained, we identify WHERE their energy is stagnant and bring it back into flow again. Even though it's unique to everyone, the most common things it boils down to are these 👇
➡️ Mental Stagnancy:
Confused about WHAT to do and the confusion is draining you.
For this you need clear priorities, simple and distilled information, thought out goal setting and relentless consistent action.
➡️ Emotional Stagnancy:
You know what to but the lack of motivation is draining you.
For this you need to check the clarity around your WHY, remind yourself of it and align with it. Ceck for and heal beliefs that are sobotaging you. Create an energising daily routine.
➡️ Physical Stagnancy:
Your body feels weighed down and it almost feels like it's out of battery (commonly comes with a craving for coffee, nicotine, sugary/fatty foods)
For this your body needs to express itself, in one way or another.
These three are not isolated from each other, but it's helpful to see them in that way for the purpose of understanding!
The other day I went to see my GP AGAIN about a stubborn skin condition I had. I had dealt with it before but it just kept on coming back again and again. Every time it came back, it would be more than the last time.
When I saw someone about it previously, they gave me some medicine to treat it at home. It was some gnarly medicine, almost dissolved your skin in the process, but it did what it was meant to do.
Got rid of the symptoms that came up.
Fast forward 6 months though and it would come up again, even worse that the last time!
How many times has this been happening to your in our life? Where you just try and get rid of the immediate pain you're feeling at the moment. Either through;
👉Numbing (e.g. alcohol, chocolate, food, smoking),
👉Distraction (Tv, overloading yourseld with other tasks which you've ramped up the importance of, scrolling through social media mindlessly)
👉or through a "Quick Fix" of the immediate pain.
And what that eventually leads to is, the core problem growing and the symptoms getting stronger and stronger until they're too painful to numb, distract ourselves from or find a "Quick Fix" to.
It usually feels a bit like:
- Being spreading incredibly thin
- Focus all over the place
- Lack of direction
- Don't want to get out of bed in the morning
In NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) we have a saying "Find the difference that makes the difference".
So if you're feeling agitated, unfocussed and unpassionate about what you're doing it might be a sign to look a bit deeper.
Generally speaking there are 2 ways to understand the core cause of a pain you're feeling:
1) Seperate yourself from the chaos and observe from a distance what is happening objectively. People who practice meditation get extremely good at objectively being the witness of their thoughts. But even if you're not a yogi; journalling, monthly reflection systems or simply a break can work as amazing reflection tools.
But sometimes we're in it too deep to understand the core cause just from reflection. So then;
2) Consult an expert. Their ability to facilitate a reflection process for you, combined with their specialised experience and their toolkit/skills will speed up the process hugely for you.
When you understand the CORE cause, even before you do anything about it suddenly you feel incredibly clear and incredibly motivated about what you need to do.
In my life I come across so many people who have an incredible potential and a secret desire to have an impact on the world, but they're tangled in the net of treating symptoms and so are stagnant, bored, unfulfilled and unfocussed. And the thing about treating the symptoms, like my skin condition, is that it's NEVER ENDING!
In my experience there's 3 core causes of feeling like this:
1) Unclear and un-articulated vision/purpose (so focusing on the instant rewards that when you achieve it you just want more of it)
2) Self sabotaging core beliefs & habits
3) Lack of knowledge/tools to move forward
That's it. Once you identify what it is, that's half the game!
So THEN what do you do?
DEEP SEATED ACTION.
Act on the core cause and watch the symptoms dissolve. I see this happen every day in my 8 week transformation course and see the blossoms of inspiration, longevity of relationships, internal peace and the building of your legacy <3
However, be warned knowing the core cause isn't some kind of magic wand. DEEP SEATED ACTION is. One is awareness, the other is change, a transformation.
I was talking to a really interesting guy the other day. He runs 4 businesses and takes the weekends off religiously to spend time with his family. 👨👩👦👦He's had to get one of those gadgets from Amazon that lock your phone away and don't release it until the time you set it to arrives 📱
Anyone know what I'm talking about?
But then when he's working in the week on one of his 4 businesses, he's constantly guilty that he's not spending more time with his kids or his wife. So he makes himself SO busy, that his sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight mode) kicks in and he physically doesn't have any time to think about anything else. 💼📈📉📊🕴️ He actually loads more work onto himself than needed to be able to focus!
Then he goes out for business drinks with his clients in the evenings. 🥂 And thinks to himself "I should be going to the gym more... and not drinking so much. Why am I here?". But then he drinks more and gets drunk to forget about it all and actually relax with the client.
I mean when you look at it from the outside, there's nothing wrong with what's happening here. At the end of the day, he's with his family every weekend, running 4 businesses in the week and relaxing with his clients when they go out for "casual" meetings.
Slight glitch though if you haven't seen it allready!
He feels shit. He's constantly tired and can't fully enjoy anything he's doing.
He achieves that image with external stimulation whether it's the Amazon phone box gadget, an overloaded schedule for himself or it's alcohol.
The cost of this is, NOTHING he does gets the BEST version of him. You know, the part of our brain responsible for multitasking and switching between thoughts takes up 10% of our brain capacity (our frontal lobe). Imagine giving everything you do, only 10% of your potential!
So the difference between this guy and someone who fully ENJOYS his life and business is their ability to stay present. Being fully present means knowing and believing in the purpose of what you're doing and dedicating a 100% of ourselves to it.
Of course, this like everything else takes practice. Our brain is a muscle and needs practice on staying present. What you practice you get good at. And when you're good at something, you see results.
In my 8 week transformation program, I create custom meditations for my clients to practice this daily.
4 hours after sending Heba her's, she messaged me saying "I've just finished listening to the meditation you sent me... for the 7'th time in a row! I just LOVE it! If the whole course was just about this meditation I would be satisfied. I just LOVE working with you <3 "
After 2 sessions with Rie she informed me that the charity fund raising that she had been putting off organising for ages, she finally gave her all to it and surpasses the target amount. She says "The two meditations changed the way I looked at the whole thing. I feel the world or universe it behind me. Where can I get more of your meditations?"
What are you holding back by giving only 10% of yourself to what you do?
Would you like to be a 100% in everything you do personally and professionally?
If NO, I doubt you would have made it this far in the post! :D
If YES, book a call with me.
It's a totally FREE call with no strings attached where we dedicate a whole hour to getting to the core of where you've been getting stuck and the steps custom to you to get your spark back.
It's a total steal and will honestly give you, at the LEAST some immense clarity.
You know, I recently spent 2 weeks in Spain competing in the World Championships of Freestyle kayaking. When I got back I was so tired, physically. All my muscles ached and sleep didn't seem to be enough.The good thing was though, that I could still work on my business while I was out there. And it was such an inspiring, fresh environment full of explorations, new challenges and connections that in the sessions I had with my clients, I was incredibly energised and had some amazing session while I was out there!
Have you ever felt so physically drained but emotionally you're on a high so you just keep going. Like you're connected to this unlimited source of energy?
Who has felt that way?
But perhaps you've also felt the opposite?
When you've ate well, slept well... but you just feel drained. You wake up anxious, got no motivation to do anything and can't focus on what you're doing. Mentally and emotionally drained!
If yes, then you know how heavy it feels!
The amount of responsibility we take for energising ourselves, directly correlates to the performance of our business, the culture we create and in the long term - the legacy we're able to leave.
So if growing an amazing business and leaving a legacy is what you want to do, you're going to need energy for that.
So how can we avoid being totally drained?
There are 3 ways we get our energy. We need to be on top of all 3 of them to thrive. Sometimes, when one is particularly high - it can make up for the lower two, but to be at our very best every single day, we need to know how to energise oursleves in all 3 ways every day.
What energises our body is PLAY and NOURISHMENT. So run, dance, jump, sing... do what you need to do and give your body REAL food it needs.
An energised mind is a focussed one. This doesn't happen when you don't know what to focus on.
"So we set goals?" I hear you say. But blindly setting goals doesn't bring focus on it's own. Knowing WHY you set those goals is what's going to give you the CLARITY your mind needs to be laser focused.
What we focus on is what we act on. And what we act on creates our reality. So feed your mind NOURISHING thoughts through visualisations and affirmations.
What we think affects how we feel. But the more we practice stabilising our emotions, the less power our thoughts have over how we feel.
Meditation, nature and moments of stillness are the keys to mastering finding CALM, being fully PRESENT and finding emotional energy.
Do you have the routines in place to energise yourself daily?
If you'd like some help with it reach out!
Alara believes that the path to a fulfilled life is to make a unique meaningful impact in the world. So she now helps business owners and is an NLP practitioner, a yoga teacher and a Contemporary Rites of Passage facilitator. She helps entrepreneurs align their life and business with their purpose in 8 weeks.